Picture a space where taboo meets tantalization, where boundaries blur and senses ignite.
We’re talking about the alluring intersection of cannabis and kink, where the psychoactive properties of the former intertwine with the sensual realms of the latter.
As societal attitudes shift and legalization spreads, the stigma surrounding these practices begins to wane, allowing for more open discussion and experimentation. However, the legality of cannabis adds an extra layer of consideration, particularly in regions where it remains prohibited.
From the hazy depths of smoke-filled rooms to the intricate knots of bondage, we navigate the complexities, challenges, and exhilarating possibilities that arise when these two worlds collide.
Join us as we peel back the layers of stigma, unpack the nuances of consent and risk, and celebrate the boundless potential for pleasure and connection that emerges when cannabis and kink intertwine.
It’s no secret that cannabis can make sex more enjoyable for many people, particularly vulva-owners. We know that it can improve the overall experience, sex drive, orgasm, and pain. But kink is not necessarily sex, and cannabis is still a mind-altering substance.
If you’re high, can you be aware of risks and consent in your kink practice?
We say yes, with a few caveats.
Be Aware of the Risks
Like any activity that involves any amount of risk, it’s important to understand what those risks are. Levels of legality can complicate access to cannabis so it stays more underground.
Cannabis may be a proven pain reliever, but a loss of pain sensation can veer into dangerous territory during activities like impact play, slapping, rope, or other types of rough play.
Build Trust
Building trust through open communication about expectations and boundaries is crucial for creating safe spaces within these communities where individuals feel comfortable expressing themselves freely without fear of judgment or harm from others involved in the scene(s). Agree on a word, phrase, or gesture ahead of time that can get you out of a scene if necessary.
It can also be helpful to discuss the signs to look out for in case the cannabis-using partner is deep enough in “sub-space” to find it difficult to communicate.
If you’re the top or dominant role, we recommend you abstain from use during play, particularly if working with rope or hefty equipment. Be sure to include discussion about tolerance and abilities as part of any negotiation where cannabis is involved.
Start Low & Go Slow
Cannabis use during kink play should be approached with caution as it may affect your ability to negotiate consent effectively. If you’re new to both, start with one on its own and work your way up to combining the two. It doesn’t mean you can’t combine them, but until you have that rapport and trust with a partner(s), it’s best to go slow.
Understanding your tolerance is essential when combining cannabis and kink as well, and all parties involved should be well aware of how they respond to the plant before incorporating it into play.
Cannabis can help you relax before or during a scene, and who knows, the chill factor may even facilitate the transition into sub space!
Consuming cannabis can also increase anxiety or paranoia in some folks, which may already be heightened entering into a scene. Remember to check in consistently and make sure that everyone involved is comfortable.
Let Cannabis Be the Kink
There are many ways to bring cannabis and kink together.
Maybe you want your partner to tell you they’re going to grind you into a pulp, spread you out on a delicate paper, roll you up and smoke you in a weed-inspired mummification scene.
Maybe you want to explore one of our cigar play videos using a fat blunt for smoke play or sensation play instead of a stogie.
Perhaps sharing a joint can be a part of an erotic breath work practice to deeply connect with your partner(s) before or after a scene.
The Bottom Line
Ultimately, the fusion of cannabis and kink beckons exploration, challenging norms, and fostering a deeper understanding of pleasure, consent, and trust within BDSM dynamics. Cannabis can be a wonderful addition to a kinky lifestyle, but like many worthwhile things is not without its risks.
Reflecting on your own thoughts and feelings is a great place to start. Ask yourself: How do I feel about cannabis and kink? Do I think cannabis has a place in kink/BDSM?
Maia (they/them) is a sex and relationships writer with a focus on pleasure, polyamory and mental health. They publish a newsletter called Sex, Drugs & Endometriosis and can be found being loud, vulnerable, and shameless on Instagram.